Haven't blogged in a while, but read something that got me thinking. It's something I've noticed, but not really taken seriously: that girls are only into geeky things because it's popular. And there may be some, but have you ever thought about the fact that some girls do actually like geeky things? I'm not an expert by any means, but I love fantasy and scifi. I haven't seen all the Star Trek series, but I loved TNG and the original series. I don't read comic books, mostly because there's SO MANY to read to get started on things I simply don't have the money or time to get caught up, but I do appreciate them and know enough about some of the heroes that I can recognize them. I love playing D&D (or, rather, Pathfinder). I've been in several games, and the longest one that we finished last year still brings a smile to my face. And none of that started when 'geeky' became popular.
I wasn't into fantasy from an early age. I mostly read Nancy Drew and other similar mystery books. My first experience with fantasy was when some TV station played the Rankin-Bass version of the Hobbit. I thought it was pretty cool and fun, but never really looked further. Then, in 7th grade, I was thumbing through my lit book, and ran across an excerpt of The Hobbit - the battle with Smaug. And that got me hooked. I found our school library had the whole series and I went through them quickly. That was my gateway to fantasy, and I started looking for other stories in that genre. Robert Jordan, David Eddings, Mercedes Lackey, and many others that I don't remember because I haven't seen the books since I graduated high school. They gave me an escape I didn't know I needed and helped shape and exercise my imagination better than Nancy Drew ever did. Don't get me wrong, I still have a special place for her on my collection shelves, and someday I'll own the entire set! And I still enjoy mystery and horror novels, even enjoyed the annotated Sherlock Holmes my dad had so much that he gave it to me. But none of them really stretched my imagination as much as the fantasy/scifi books I read. Yet, I never really found anyone at my school that enjoyed them. No one played D&D, there were a few people that watched TNG, but it wasn't something one talked about in groups. The fantasy/scifi books in the library weren't checked out much, if at all. It wasn't until college that I found a friend that loved it as much as I did (and was the one to introduce me to anime). That, and discovering the internet and chat rooms, let me know I wasn't alone. I wasn't as much of an outcast as I thought. I learned new things, was introduced to D&D, found new books, and enjoyed all of it.
So, when geeky guys talk about how 'their' fandoms are taken over by girls that just think it's popular and don't understand, that rather frustrates me. I couldn't pass the stupid 'tests' they want to give because I don't have a head for minutia, I never did. I don't remember small details, and for things that I haven't seen or read in years, my memory is very fuzzy. But that doesn't make me any less a geek. As much as I don't want to fall into the hipster mindset, I really did enjoy many fantasy and scifi things before it was popular. So maybe consider the fact that some girls where into geeky things long before you knew about it. And even if a girl is only showing interest because it's popular, take it as an opportunity. Maybe, if you'll willing to talk and share knowledge instead of being offended, you'll find someone that is actually interested but never felt comfortable with it before. And maybe by doing so, another true fan will take shape and our fandoms will grow and be richer for it. And in the end, isn't that what we all want?
Another thing that people have trouble with is that when they make a mistake, they consider it a complete failure. Like, they'll have a slice of cake for dessert that they weren't expecting. Of course, that jumps your daily calories, which sometimes puts you over what you should be eating for the day. And so, since they made a mistake, they might as well give up since they've totally ruined their diet!
So, another thing that I keep seeing pop up is the comment "I have no motivation! Please provide motivation for me!" This has always bugged me. It's like saying "I can't do anything hard without someone prodding me constantly to do it!" That's something a child would say, not a responsible adult. *Of course, that leads off to a whole other rant, but I'm trying to not hijack my own posts any more than I already do!*
One component that most diet plans include is exercise. Add X number of hours doing this every day and so on. And considering that exercise increases your calories burned, it can help. But I don't know about you, but I'm a lazy bitch, so forcing myself to exercise just makes me feel worse! So I would always start strong and burn out quickly, stop exercising, and then feel like I was failing.
But I realized something a few years ago. Exercise IS NOT required for weight loss! I lost weight with just controlling my calories in. Which, incidentally gave me NO excuse to quit! After all, if I can lose weight without having to force myself to do stuff I don't like doing or can't do very well, then why wouldn't I?
Last time I mentioned that the HOW to lose weight can be difficult. The 'how' as in what method to use and where to start. So many people look at weight loss as this huge mystery and confusing blur of marketing. Which it is on the surface. There's also the idea that weight loss can be fixed quickly with X diet plan and you'll look and feel amazing afterwards! You'll lose 10 lbs in two weeks and everyone will love you and you'll be gifted with puppies and unicorns! The problem is, there is no quick fix for weight loss. The reason is that real weight loss that stays off requires a serious adjustment to your eating habits. Not a temporary reduction in carbs or protein or whatever is consider 'unclean' foods this month. Sure, following diet plans can make you lose weight, but it won't stay off. You have to be willing to take a good look at your eating habits, identify and change the ones that are harmful to you, and stick with it. That's what diet plans DON'T teach you how to do.