On Motivation

So, another thing that I keep seeing pop up is the comment "I have no motivation! Please provide motivation for me!" This has always bugged me. It's like saying "I can't do anything hard without someone prodding me constantly to do it!" That's something a child would say, not a responsible adult. *Of course, that leads off to a whole other rant, but I'm trying to not hijack my own posts any more than I already do!*

Here's the thing: while external motivation and support is nice, it's sporadic and fleeting. Yeah, having someone behind us and making sure we do what we're supposed to every day would be helpful to all of us, but they're not going to be doing that 24/7 unless you pay them to do it. There are some people that have friends and family that support what they're doing to lose weight, which is good. They're not going to ride herd on you, but they will offer encouragement from time to time. But what about people that don't have anyone to do that? Does that mean they're doomed to remain overweight the rest of their life? Will they be stuck at a heavier weight simply because no one will tell them they're doing a good job and keep going? Does that mean a grown adult can't do anything the least bit hard without someone holding their hands? No, of course not! Sounds kinda silly, doesn't it?

What's with all the questions?
Hush, I'm making a point.

So what is the solution? To find your own motivation. Sounds simple, but for a lot of people, it's not. I had trouble with it myself. For me, and for a lot of people, we know we need to lose weight. But that isn't always enough. It's one thing to know logically what you need to do, it's another thing entirely to actually get the motivation to do it. What worked for me is that I had to take a good, hard look at myself and why I wanted to lose weight. I knew I needed to, the doctor told me I needed to, the mirror told me I needed to, but I could never stick with something long enough to make a difference, which would feed into my feeling like a failure. It wasn't until I got our wedding pictures back that I really started making an effort. The reason is that I'm fat in our wedding pictures. The dress is still gorgeous, and everything else was lovely (and in HSpoon's case, quite handsome!), but I don't like how I look in those pictures. I don't look like my mental image of myself. I realized that I had been avoiding pictures and even looking in the mirror for too long because I didn't really recognize myself anymore. I wanted that to change. And since I have a picture of us on my desk at work, I had a constant reminder of what I DON'T want to be. Yeah, I screwed up from time to time, but that's what my reason for losing weight became. Now that I've lost the weight, that picture is a reminder of where I was and that I don't want to be there anymore.

I guess my point is that you have to determine for YOURSELF why YOU want to lose the weight. Take a good, honest look at yourself and find that reason. It's ok if it's not the standard "to get healthy" reason so many people think it should be! Find your own personal reason, and that will help you stay on track so much better than a reason someone else picks for you.

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